Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Last night, for the first time in almost two years, I was at my house. Yo came with me to make sure there were no complications.


RO has left a lot of stuff behind. I'm not yet sure what his plans for it are. If I don't get a reasonable commitment from him, I'm going to throw it all out.


There is a fair amount of 'nice' stuff there. Old dish sets. Ornate candle sticks. Beaded jewelry. I almost feel bad for wanting to throw it out. At the same time, there are over a dozen ornate candle sticks there. I don't need them. It will take me too long to sell. Maybe I'll put all of this stuff up for free on Craigslist.


The house is a mess, but not damaged. It will be OK after I purge and clean it up.


RO left the cat at the house. He was very clear that I have to take over responsibility for the cat. I introduced my dog to the cat. They ignored each other. This is good.


RO texted and called me last night. He has not moved on. In fact, it was almost like it was the day after we broke up.


When he called, he just talked and sobbed and talked and sobbed. While he talked, I put my phone on 'speaker' and 'mute.' He went on for 25 minutes before he said good bye. He didn't ask questions. He didn't check that I was listening. He just vented. Strange. Am I complicit in his poor recovery by not giving him that feedback?


1 comment:

"Tommy" said...

RO has to assume responsibility for his life and move on... I would hope he would...for ALL's Sake. I understand it is a very hard process for everyone, especially you. Looking back, I just caution you to be cautious with him, I believe there is a trust issue there.

Don't make your self vulnerable.