I don't have much news about RO. His daughter has texted me some occasional updates. She says he seems like he is in a better place today.
I've been mulling over my own place in all of this. Of course I don't hold myself responsible for this. RO's attempted suicide is another symptom of a problem he has-- the way he escalates, pushes or throws a tantrum until he gets what he wants. No compromise. Maybe an apology for loosing his cool
Of course he wasn't always like that. Usually I liked being around him.
I still feel sorry for him. I don't hate the man. I left him because I wasn't happy in our relationship. Because for the first time since I was a teenager, I wanted to be alone. I can be happy alone. Solitude is nice.
Perhaps this will change in the future. For now it works.
A few people have mentioned that RO still isn't clear why I left him. They have suggested I write him a letter. I'm starting that now. In these circumstances, it's difficult to write a Dear John letter.
I know we've talked about why I left him several times. Aside from he above there were money problems and drinking problems. We have talked about all of these. But, he has a way of ignoring what I say, or turning it into a punch list of things he has to fix to repair our relationship.…
"You want me to get a job?"
"Yeah, you need a job. You need a real source of income, and the store won't cut it. "
"After I get a job, then can I to ask you out on a date."
"Don't do that. Do it for yourself."
"Then you didn't leave me because I don't have a job."
I will write a letter to RO. I will tell him why I left him. I will work with his daughter to make sure I time it to do more help than harm.